I have found it surprisingly difficult to say “I’m really hoping for a girl” out loud.
There appears to be an unwritten code out there telling expectant parents that hoping for one sex or another for their baby is taboo. Tacky. Bad karma.
But- shoot darn it all to heck dang! I want a girl! I do, I do! A mini me.
Does this mean I may feel a bit disappointed if we find we’re having another boy? Heck yes, it might! And that’s okay! Hoping for one sex or another is natural, and I believe every parent feels it to some degree or another. But bottling up these feelings of hoping for a girl won’t help me out one iota in the long run. I’d rather be open and honest about these hopes now so that I can be open and honest about feeling a bit disappointed later on. I think that’s a healthy place to be.
Does this mean I will not love a little boy as much as I would love a little girl? Abso-frickin-lutely not. Just give me some baby cheeks to munch on and all will be well with the world. Boy cheeks? Girl cheeks? They all have the same munch-a-bility to meeee!
I would not be alive today if my mother had not desperately wanted a baby girl.
She had two boys. They’d planned to stop at two children. Yet, they decided to try one last time for the girl my mother had dreamed of having.
When I was born, my dad cried, “It’s a BOY!”
My mom’s heart sank a little.
Then the doctor said, “Umm, no… it’s a GIRL!”
My mom’s heart soared a lot.
So, I’ve decided to cut out the apologetic, ‘oh-but-if-its-a-boy-we’ll-be-just-as-thrilled’ bit, and get straight to the honesty.
OF COURSE we’d love to have another boy.
OF COURSE the more important thing is the baby’s health. (BTW- why do people always pull this card when someone says they are hoping for a boy or hoping for a girl? Does my saying ‘I want a girl’ imply that I am not as concerned as I should be with the baby’s overall health? Gar!)
And OF COURSE I trust that God knows what’s best for me and my family and has the exact, perfect human being (designed specifically for us!) headed our way.
These things are obvious- too obvious to require endless restating.
So, from now on, I’m saying it confidently.
I am dreaming for a girl.
How about you? Have any of you felt it was difficult to express your desire for a girl or boy? Or do any of you feel it’s tacky when an expecting parent blatantly says they are hoping for a specific sex? Why/why not?